Why do so many Christian relationships fail?

There is no “one size fits all” divorce explanation. Divorce is painful, as it should be, regardless of who files for it first, who initiates the separation, or who did what wrong. Some people compare divorce to two sheets of paper glued together: no matter how hard you try to separate them, both sheets will be damaged.

In the past, divorce was more of a social issue. Every time a local church experienced a divorce, it came as a surprise. Currently, however, the divorce rate among Christians is rising while it is falling among non-believers. You are no longer surprised to learn that a couple is separating. Consequently, what is happening to Christian marriages, and how can this be stopped? Can it be prevented? Here are several reasons why Christian marriages are failing, as well as strategies for avoiding becoming a statistic.

You sin

This truth is the most profound and direct explanation for why marriages fail, which is sin. Romans 3:23 reminds us that we have all sinned and fallen short of God’s glory. Everyone has the potential to commit sins against their spouse. It is also simple for sins to accumulate. Even when sins are not directly directed at your spouse, they still affect your marriage because they weigh on your heart. However, 1 John 1:9 reminds us that if we confess our sins, God will forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. It is never too late to make amends with the Holy Spirit by confessing your sins, and it is also never too late to repair your marriage.

You handle marriage like intense dating

A second reason Christian marriages fail is that they are not accorded the respect they merit. Marriage isn’t intense dating. Couples frequently enter into marriage with the belief that a divorce is an option if things do not work out. They repeat “until death do us part” on their wedding day, but in their hearts, they are devising an escape route. However, the Bible states that when a couple marries, they become one flesh, forming a unit of two people. Due to the fact that both union members are sinners, this could result in instant conflict. There will be disagreements, but this union represents the covenant between Jesus and His church, which should not be taken lightly.

You’re forgetful

It is easy to forget why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place as the years pass. Your vision is obscured by your spouse’s annoying habits and quirks, which drive you up the wall. You forget that your spouse is a benefit to you, a blessing. Proverbs 18:22 reminds us that the man who finds a wife also receives the favor of the Lord. In Proverbs 5:18, the Bible also instructs husbands to rejoice in their wives. This verse is intended for men, but women can also learn from it by rejoicing in their marriage and remembering the reasons why they fell in love with their spouse. A small amount of appreciation can go a long way for both parties.

You quit too soon

Instead of fighting for their marriage and digging in their heels, couples typically give up. This is not always the case, such as in cases of abuse and adultery. Consider Luke 11:5-8 for couples who are ready to give up because they believe they have fallen out of love. Prayer alters the world. You can try self-help books, counseling, and passive-aggressive tactics, but going to God is the best solution for your marriage. Begin by praying tenaciously and continue to fight for your relationship.

You degrade one another

Speaking unkindly to one’s spouse causes significant harm, especially over time. Both wives and husbands engage in nagging, but women are more commonly associated with this behavior. According to Proverbs 21:9, it is preferable to live in a roof corner than in a home with a grumpy wife. Both partners should watch their language and avoid expressing anger. Before speaking with your spouse, taking a deep breath to control your temper can be the key to saving your marriage. Instead of pushing your spouse away, make an effort to be someone they want to spend time with, and they will reciprocate. Kindness is contagious.

You do not understand what love is

As children, we learn the world’s definition of love, which is typically lusted masquerading as love. The Bible contains the true definition of love, specifically 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. This verse describes love as being kind, patient, and not boastful or envious. It endures, believes, and bears everything. As you read through this verse’s list, consider how you feel about your spouse. Do you demonstrate courtesy and patience? Do insecurity and jealousy control your actions? Are you perpetually impolite and irritable? Beginning with this list, observe how God transforms you and your spouse.

You don’t satisfy your biblical responsibilities

Unfortunately, this topic is sensitive due to abuse and sin, but the Bible outlines the roles of husbands and wives in marriage. Marriages function more effectively within the boundaries that God has established. In Ephesians 5:24-26, husbands are commanded to love, while wives are commanded to submit. However, this does not imply that husbands should disregard their wives’ opinions when leading the household or that wives should not love their husbands, as marriage is a partnership. God told Adam in the Garden of Eden that he shouldn’t be alone and needs a companion. When wives and husbands fulfill their God-given responsibilities, the marriage typically runs more smoothly. Conflict arises, however, when positions are resented, abandoned, or reversed.

You lack compassion

If you refuse to forgive, your marriage will become completely miserable or fail. This crucial aspect of our Christian walk and marriage is emphasized in the Bible. When it is difficult to forgive your spouse, remember how much God has forgiven you and follow His example. This does not imply that you should tolerate your partner’s repeated disrespect. Keep in mind that forgiveness has limits.

The rates of Christian divorce continue to rise, but restoration is possible if one maintains a focus on God. If you’re in the midst of a divorce, consider whether it’s worth salvaging. After that, you and your partner must work together to save your marriage.