You Can Do These 4 Things To Forgive Yourself

Facts over Emotions

People have confided in me so many times and said they don’t think they can be forgiven. When I explain to them that God forgives all of our sins and cleanses us from every trace of wickedness (1st John 1:9), they claim they accept it, but they still feel they can’t forgive themselves. They believe they have done too much in their life to ever be forgiven. The issue is that they place far too much trust in their emotions and not enough in God’s Word. I try to demonstrate to them that they must believe what God says and that His Word is clear by pointing them out that First John 1:9 is always true, regardless of how a person feels. No matter how people “feel,” it can never compare to what God’s Word teaches because we can be cleansed from all of our sins and brought to be the very righteousness of Jesus Christ (2nd Cor 5:21). God’s Word is authoritative, always true, and objective while feelings are fleeting, untrustworthy, and subjective. Emotions are subjective truths; they may be right or they may be wrong. God’s Word is always accurate, regardless of how someone feels, and feelings cannot alter the truth of the case. Which one would you trust more? Facts or feelings?

An Improved Standard

Anyone who believes they will never be forgiven by God, regardless of what they have done, is essentially holding God to a higher standard of forgiveness. Why can’t someone forgive themself if they have confessed their sins and placed their faith in Christ? The reason for this is either that they hold God to a higher standard of forgiveness or they believe that their sin or sins are too great for God to forgive. They may also be sinners, which is another possibility. How many of your sins remained when Jesus died on the cross is the query I ask them. Of course, all of them. Then why do some people think that Jesus’ sacrificed blood is insufficient to atone for their sins? We return to emphasizing sentiments over facts. We must trust God if He claims that we can have all of our sins forgiven. Though God cannot lie, our emotions frequently do. Ask them, “Don’t you think that Jesus’ perfect life, suffering, death, and resurrection was enough to rescue you, and if not, why not? If you or someone you know is unable to forgive yourself. “Jesus came to earth to give His life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:45), and He will save everyone who calls on Him, not just the majority of them. If you declare with your lips that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved, according to the apostle Paul (Rom 10:9). That ought to end it.

It is completed.

The phrase “if you’re not baptized, if you don’t tithe, if you don’t do this or that, you are not going to be saved” is one that I hear from Christians far too frequently. But isn’t Jesus enough? Do we really need to combine salvation with Jesus and something else? God sent the sinless Son of God to die for people who all deserved God’s wrath, and when Jesus died for us, it was sufficient. God understood what He was doing. Why do so many of us seek to add to what Jesus declared to be already complete? Jesus replied, “It is completed” (John 19:30), which is translated as “Paid in full.” We all naturally wish to do something to hasten our salvation. That is why there are so many other religions in the world that emphasize certain behaviors. Instead of “do, do, do,” it is “Done” in Christ.


Regrettably, some Christians scrutinize and condemn other Christians, thinking they might not be in the kingdom of God. Frequently, this is due to incorrect assumptions being made or concerns being raised about unimportant matters. Perhaps they will ask, “How can you do that? You’re a Christian, but they should know that even after salvation, believers still commit sin since they aren’t sinless (1st John 1:8, 10). The good news is that we don’t need to live up to their expectations if we feel condemned or judged by others. We will stand before God, and if He has pardoned us, “Who is to condemn? As stated in Romans 8:34 and Romans 8:31, Christ Jesus is the one who died and, more significantly, who was risen. He is seated at God’s right side and is, in fact, pleading on our behalf. These are rhetorical queries rather than yes-or-no inquiries. Paul is posing these inquiries not to get a response, but rather to illustrate a point. No one can criticize someone whom God has accepted. If God is for you, who or what could ever be against you as nothing or no one can ever separate us from God, ever again? Who can compete and prevail?