The Strength in Our Struggles: Raising Children through Weakness

“Mom, please, you’ve got to come with me! Everyone else’s mom will be there,” pleaded my little girl, her eyes full of hope. Her desire was simple, just for me to volunteer at her kindergarten’s field day. Yet, I found myself compelled to deny this innocent request, hindered by my disability which prevents me from navigating outdoor settings independently. A soft nod of understanding followed my explanation, one which my daughter had heard too often. The harsh reality of my limitations was a specter she was growing accustomed to, a specter I wish she didn’t have to bear.

As a young woman, before motherhood, my disability was my battle alone. I molded my desires and aspirations around my capabilities, never reaching for what lay beyond my grasp. However, motherhood unfurled a world of responsibilities and desires that repeatedly reminded me of my limitations. The guilt of not fulfilling my daughters’ expectations, born out of these restrictions, was an unwelcome guest in my heart.

Countless parents around the world share this sense of inadequacy. Financial strains, limited educational opportunities, familial dysfunction, personal mental health battles, or even an array of other issues can cast a shadow over their parental role. Often, they feel their children are at a disadvantage because of their circumstances. However, our Heavenly Father, in his divine wisdom, has placed us in our children’s lives for a reason.

Turning Dependence into Strength

My infirmity made me reliant on God’s strength and wisdom to navigate my life, making His boundless resources my own. His scripture in 1 Corinthians 1:25 comforts me, “For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.” God’s wisdom, power, and grace overflow onto me in every moment of need, turning my dependence on Him into my strength.

The innate necessity to ask God for guidance before responding to my children’s demands has become a blessing in disguise. Where once I would act on impulse without seeking His counsel, now I pray for His wisdom. The story of the Israelites and the Gibeonites in Joshua 9:14 serves as a reminder of how important it is to seek God’s counsel in all decisions, even those that seem straightforward.

Becoming a Better Mother in Weakness

In my state of constant weakness, I found myself reaching out to God for specific help, witnessing His concrete responses. The more I sought Him, the more I found Him. My physical limitations made my transition from Martha’s busy serving to Mary’s patient listening, teaching me the joy of basking in His presence and trusting His plan.

My struggles allowed me to understand that God was using my weakness to not only mold me into a better mother but also to cultivate resilience, empathy, and creativity in my children. My daughters grew into empathetic individuals with an innate sense to help others. Their lives were shaped by my disability in ways I hadn’t foreseen, creating strong, compassionate beings.

My children also learned the beauty of prayer through witnessing my dependence on God. One such instance occurred during a challenging drive to my daughter’s basketball game when my leg started cramping. My daughter, seeing my struggle, started praying for my relief and for the traffic to clear. We made it to the game in time, and that experience served as a testament to God’s presence in our lives.

The Beauty of Weakness in Parenting

Our children’s faith can flourish in the soil of our weaknesses. As they observe our struggles and our reliance on God, they learn to trust Him more deeply. They see firsthand how God’s strength shines through our weakness, and the miracle of His provision becomes their reality. As Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 4:7, our weaknesses help us see the surpassing power that belongs to God.

Parenting through weakness can indeed be a path to God’s glory. As we continue to rely on His grace, God’s power becomes more evident in our lives. After all, His grace is sufficient for us, and His power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). What greater blessing could we ask for?