A Light Beyond Imperfections: How to Cultivate Love in Marriage

Marriage, as is often said, is a mirror reflecting the deepest parts of our souls. It’s in this sacred union that we are constantly reminded of the transformative essence of the gospel. Through the gospel, the slumbering wake and the lifeless find vitality. Those who’ve been living in shadows are beckoned into the glorious light of Christ, experiencing true goodness for the first time.

Just as the gospel wields the power to awaken souls, it has the potential to turn everyday husbands into reflections of Christ’s love for the church, and ordinary wives into supportive partners, deeply respecting their husbands’ guidance. Yet, such change doesn’t instantaneously occur, as Apostle Paul enlightens us: it’s about remaining in the light (Ephesians 5:8–9).

Today, let’s shine a light on the wives seeking transformation within their marriages. A wife yearning for change should immerse herself in the divine light, allowing Christ’s brilliance to highlight truths and dispel lies.

Two Illuminating Truths for Wives:

  1. Your Husband: Human and Imperfect. It’s vital to remember that despite his spiritual awakenings, your husband remains human. Paul, in his wisdom, speaks of the common struggles we face. Just like anyone, your husband may occasionally grapple with pride, impatience, or temptations. His journey to love you selflessly will have its moments of stumbling.

Think of Christ’s light on marriage as a beacon revealing hidden flaws – much like how a light in a Texan household might expose an unwanted cockroach. Embracing this truth ensures you’re never taken aback by your husband’s missteps.

  1. Your Husband is Evolving. While he may err, he’s also maturing. Under Christ’s luminosity, the path to rectification becomes evident. As he becomes more aware of his imperfections, the spiritual tools at his disposal (Ephesians 6:10–18) ensure he’s equipped to conquer any sinful inclinations. These twin truths can shape a marriage filled with both realism and optimism.

Two Shadows to Beware Of:

  1. “I’m Holier than Him.” Christ’s light unearths the subtle lie of considering oneself more righteous. All of us, at times, believe we’re morally superior. However, the cross serves as an eternal reminder of our shared need for salvation. Our reactions to our husband’s failures, often drenched in our own sins, emphasize the importance of self-awareness and forgiveness. Paul’s words ring true: “Be angry and do not sin . . . and give no opportunity to the devil” (Ephesians 4:26–27).
  2. “I Know Better.” Another shadow lurking is the misconception of our wisdom surpasses God’s. You might envision a different path for your husband’s spiritual journey. Yet, God’s divine plan might prioritize other aspects of his growth. Being in Christ’s light, wives can discern whether their concerns are genuinely about sins or merely personality differences. For deeper struggles, remember Paul’s advice: “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer” (Romans 12:12).

Radiance in Unity

By choosing to stay in God’s light, we create marriages of profound depth and transformation. Let your expectations be rooted in understanding and grace, knowing that your husband, like all of us, is a work in progress. And as both of you don your spiritual armor (Ephesians 6:10–11), may you journey hand in hand, evolving together into the likeness of the Savior.