Reimagining Purity Culture: A Call to See Women as Coheirs in the Kingdom of God

We’ve all heard the narratives within Christian circles: purity is a jewel to be guarded, a treasure to be protected at all costs. While the essence of purity culture aims to uphold Biblical principles, sometimes the narrative can falter, particularly in the way men view women. This is a wake-up call for us to examine and reshape those perceptions in a manner that aligns more faithfully with Biblical teachings.

A Double-Edged Perception

When it comes to purity, men in the Church are often taught to navigate the presence of women with caution. The discourse tends to oscillate between viewing women as “damsels in distress” to “damsels causing distress.” Far from Paul’s directive in 1 Timothy 5:2 to treat women “with absolute purity,” modern Christian literature at times becomes a guide on how to avoid women rather than how to interact meaningfully with them.

The Allure vs. The Risk

Certain influential voices, such as John Eldredge, the author of “Wild at Heart,” suggest that a woman’s highest calling is to be “seductive rather than fierce.” Meanwhile, other narratives like those presented in the book “Every Man’s Battle,” frame feminine beauty as a potential stumbling block. Instead of guiding men to see women as sisters in Christ, we’re painting pictures that represent them as temptations to be ‘clicked’ away, inadvertently reducing women to obstacles or rewards on the path to purity.

The Need for a Shift

When we asked Paul, a single Christian man, about this dichotomy, he shared that the issue wasn’t just the narrative but the lack of an alternative. “We weren’t shown how to interact with women in a way that sees them as persons first, and that’s problematic,” he said.

A Father’s Advice

So, what’s the way forward? When discussing how he would talk to his son about lust and respect, Paul had a thoughtful answer. “I will teach him that true sexuality is about vulnerability and acceptance, and these can only come from respecting women as individuals, not as objects.”

A Proactive Love

It’s time we adopted a proactive approach. Christian writer Katelyn Beaty hits the nail on the head by suggesting that a better strategy for dealing with sexual sin is to see women as our neighbors. Just as Peter calls us to “love one another earnestly from a pure heart” (1 Peter 1:22 ESV), we need to refocus the male gaze to recognize women as more than their physical bodies. Women are not merely temptations to be avoided; they are fellow image-bearers of God, co-laborers in faith, and coheirs in the Kingdom of God.

Community Over Isolation

We are created for community, not isolation. The language we use and the teachings we uphold within the Church should reflect that, celebrating the multifaceted roles women play as sisters, leaders, and warriors in the faith. It’s time we viewed and discussed purity in a way that enriches our community, not one that impoverishes it.

So as we journey forward in our walks with Christ, let’s be catalysts for a change in narrative, fostering relationships grounded in mutual respect, admiration, and above all, love. This is not just a man’s battle; it’s a Kingdom battle. And in this battle, everyone has immeasurable value.