Finding Faithful Fellowship: A Guide to Community After Moving

Life has a curious way of putting us in situations reminiscent of our most vulnerable years. After my graduation, I embarked on a journey to Seattle with dreams and a spirit ready for a new adventure. Yet, the overpowering silence of my empty room on Friday nights echoed the loneliness of my 7th-grade self.

In our academic years, we revel in the effortless bond of shared interests and dreams. This ready-made fellowship vanishes once our graduation caps land, and we find ourselves amidst people from every conceivable background.

Having faced the tribulations of relocation eight times, I have trod the path of solitude more than once. The good news? Each move taught me lessons and strategies to integrate into the community. For those feeling lost in a new place, here’s a soulful guide to finding your spiritual and social ground.

1. Seek and You Shall Find – The Power of Introduction:

Before embarking on your journey, reach out and ask for introductions. Whether you’re in search of a spiritual group or professional contacts, introductions are golden keys. Remember when Jesus sent out his disciples? He asked them to find a person of goodwill in every new place. Similarly, the greats of yesteryears would carry a letter of introduction. Taking a leaf from their book, I’ve made invaluable connections this way, even landing a job and forming lasting friendships.

2. Dive Deep into Community:

My time in Washington, D.C. was a clear testament to the fact that hopping between communities won’t bring you closer to any of them. Upon moving, choose a church or group, and commit to it for at least a month. It’s not about finding the perfect community but connecting deeply with those around you. And remember, while churches are sanctuaries for souls, hobbies are too. Whether you’re into cycling, reading, or climbing, there’s likely a group waiting to welcome you.

3. The Silent Strength of Introverts:

For those who find solace in quiet corners, the bustling energy of extroverts might seem intimidating. But here’s a secret: Fellow introverts can be your best allies. Spot them by their observant nature, their tendency to listen more than speak, or the occasional book they carry. Approaching them might seem daunting, but even a simple, “Hey, I’m new here” can break the ice. As an introvert myself, I’ve found these interactions to be the most rewarding.

In the end, remember this: moving is never devoid of challenges, be it the heartache of leaving friends behind or the initial solitude of a new place. But armed with patience, faith, and these three steps, I promise, you’ll find a community that resonates with your heart and soul. And who knows, in your quest for connections, our paths might cross. After all, I’ve journeyed far and wide, and our stories might just intertwine.