The True Essence of “Yes”: Balancing Commitment with Spiritual Fulfillment

Have you ever found yourself feeling like you’re in a never-ending juggling act, constantly adding more balls to the mix, anxiously hoping none of them drop? It’s an exhilarating act to watch at the circus, but a daunting one to live day-to-day.

In our bid to be the best versions of ourselves, we often overcommit. Each enthusiastic “yes” we give becomes another task, another responsibility, another ball to juggle. And in this cascade of commitments, we often forget the essence of why we commit in the first place.

This brings to mind the age-old tale of Martha and Mary from Luke 10:38-42. Martha, ever the dedicated hostess, found herself engrossed in preparations when Jesus graced her home. From tidying up the living room to preparing a sumptuous meal, she was intent on ensuring everything was perfect. But while Martha busied herself with chores, her sister Mary chose to sit at Jesus’ feet, listening intently to His teachings.

Feeling overwhelmed and somewhat neglected, Martha couldn’t contain her frustration, urging Jesus to remind Mary of her responsibilities. But Jesus, in His infinite wisdom, gently pointed out, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

It’s tempting to label Martha as the distracted sister and Mary as the devoted one. But isn’t there a little bit of Martha in all of us? The societal pressure to always “do”, to please others, and to find our worth in actions can often cloud our true purpose.

By saying “yes” to everything, we inadvertently might be saying “no” to the most fulfilling experiences that God places in our path. Just like Martha, we might miss out on moments of divine connection, of deep spiritual nourishment, simply because we’re too occupied.

Consider this: What if Martha had chosen differently that day? What if she had allowed herself a moment to sit by Jesus, absorbing His teachings and feeling His presence? That “better yes” might not have been the grandest action, but it would have fed her soul in a way no amount of tasks could.

In our rush to do more and be more, let’s remember to pause and reflect. Before your next “yes,” give it some thought. Take a moment, a day, or even longer to seek God’s guidance. Is this new commitment in line with His will? Does it leave room for spiritual growth and connection?

Let’s aspire to be like Mary, prioritizing our spiritual well-being over societal expectations. At the same time, let’s honor the Martha within, recognizing that it’s not about shunning responsibilities but about understanding their true purpose.

Embrace the power of the “better yes.” It might be a small, seemingly insignificant choice, but its impact can ripple through eternity.