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What We Get Wrong About Discipleship
Following Jesus isn’t a program or performance it’s a daily surrender that changes everything.

“Discipleship” is a word we hear often in church circles but do we really understand what it means?
For some, it’s coffee with a mentor. For others, it’s finishing a Bible plan or joining a small group. But Jesus didn’t treat discipleship as optional. He called it the cost of following Him.
In Luke 9:23, He said, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.” That wasn’t just a metaphor. It was a summons to a radically different life.
So why do so many of us treat discipleship like a side project? Here are four common misconceptions and what true discipleship really looks like.
1. Discipleship Isn’t Convenient
Many of us expect transformation to fit into our schedule something we can achieve in 45-minute sessions between errands. But biblical discipleship isn’t designed for ease. It demands surrender.
Jesus never promised a comfortable journey. He promised a cross. If your walk with Christ hasn’t challenged your routines, your preferences, or your pride, it might be time to ask whether you’re truly following Him or simply admiring Him from a distance.
True discipleship will disrupt your comfort and challenge your control. And that’s a good thing.
2. It’s Not Just “Me and Jesus”
Modern culture often elevates personal spirituality above community. But Jesus built His ministry on relationships. He lived life with His disciples, taught in shared spaces, and emphasized accountability and love within the body of believers.
Discipleship requires proximity. It’s more than personal devotion; it’s walking with others, being known, and letting others speak truth into your life even when it’s uncomfortable.
Growth happens in community, not in isolation. If you want to become like Christ, you need to walk alongside others doing the same.
3. It’s More Than Mentoring
Mentoring has its place, but discipleship is deeper. It’s not about giving advice or sharing personal wisdom. It’s about pointing others to Jesus.
Paul wrote in 2 Timothy 2:2, “What you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust to faithful people who will be able to teach others also.” Notice the chain of multiplication. Discipleship isn’t about being the expert it’s about walking faithfully and helping others do the same.
You don’t need a seminary degree to disciple someone. You just need to be willing, humble, and tethered to the Word.
4. It’s Not a Formula
There’s no universal playbook for making disciples. Jesus didn’t hand out manuals He sent people into real life to love, serve, heal, and proclaim the Kingdom.
Discipleship is about obedience, not checklists. Are you doing what Jesus taught? Are you loving God and people well? Are you helping others walk in that same direction?
If not, no program or platform can substitute for a surrendered heart and an obedient life.
The Cost and the Joy
Discipleship isn’t glamorous. It won’t earn you applause. But it’s the essence of following Jesus.
It’s messy. It’s inconvenient. And it’s worth everything.
Because discipleship isn’t about behavior modification or head knowledge. It’s about becoming like Christ and helping others do the same.
That’s not a side project. That’s the whole point.
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