Drift Toward Her

Can you still remember the thrill of first love? The way her voice seemed to awaken something deep in your soul, something you didn’t even know you were searching for? Those early days of romance were intoxicating filled with late-night conversations, nervous smiles, and a heart that raced at every glance.

But time changes things. Marriage, beautiful as it is, can become familiar. Children come, routines take over, and years together replace the butterflies of early love with the steady heartbeat of partnership. Ten minutes of quiet conversation becomes rare, and the vibrant “I love you” of yesterday can fade into hurried words over morning coffee.

You love her, of course. She’s your wife, your companion, the mother of your children. Yet sometimes you miss her not because she’s gone, but because life’s noise has drowned out the song of your love.

A Father’s Wisdom

The father of Proverbs offers a powerful reminder to every husband:
“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.” (Proverbs 5:18–19)

This is not a suggestion but a command be intoxicated always in her love. Be led astray, not by distractions or temptations, but by her. Forget your phone, your to-do list, and your tiredness. Wander toward her again. Rediscover her beauty and her heart.

The wise father calls husbands to remain captivated not just in the early days but for all their days. Familiarity can dim our passion if we let it, but the love God designed for marriage is meant to deepen and flourish over time.

The Gift of Seeing

One of the greatest threats to marital love is simply forgetting to look. To look not just at her but into her to see the woman God has given you as both gift and grace. The husband in the Song of Solomon is an example of such attentive love:
“How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O noble daughter! Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a master hand... Your eyes are pools in Heshbon... your flowing locks are like purple; a king is held captive in the tresses.” (Song of Solomon 7:1–5)

These words may sound unusual to modern ears, but they reveal something vital he notices her. He studies her with delight. He speaks admiration, not just in youth but throughout life’s seasons.

Husbands, do you see your wife like this? Not as a checklist of duties or a familiar presence in the home, but as the woman who still holds your heart? Thank God for her beauty not just her outward beauty but her strength, her faith, her laughter, and her heart.

Beauty That Deepens

Proverbs urges us to rejoice in “the wife of your youth,” even as the years pass and appearances change. The world tries to sell a lie that beauty is fleeting, that passion is only for the young. But God’s design for marriage tells a better story.

The wife of your youth grows in grace and beauty with each passing season. Her heart becomes richer, her love deeper, her faith more radiant. She is not just the girl you fell for years ago she is the woman God is shaping into Christlikeness. No counterfeit affection or worldly distraction could compare.

The Christlike Husband

Marriage is more than romance it is a living parable of Christ and His bride, the church. Christ does not love His bride only when she is spotless and new; He gave His life to make her spotless, to present her “in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing” (Ephesians 5:27).

In the same way, husbands are called to love their wives sacrificially and consistently. To pursue her heart, to cherish her, to lead her in grace. Christ’s love is not distracted, half-hearted, or seasonal and neither should ours be.

Intimacy and Its Place

Physical intimacy in marriage is a gift one that strengthens unity and guards against temptation (1 Corinthians 7:5). But it is not ultimate. Even intimacy, as good and holy as it is, serves a greater purpose: to point us toward a deeper union with God.

Paul’s instruction to occasionally pause intimacy for prayer shows that there is something even more satisfying communion with the Lord. Marriage, with all its delights, is a shadow of something greater: the eternal joy of being united with Christ.

Rediscovering Her

So, husbands, take a moment to look again. Put down your phone, slow down your pace, and see the woman who walks beside you. Let your heart remember why you fell in love, and let that love grow deeper. Speak words of admiration. Share laughter. Be present.

“Be intoxicated always in her love.” Not just when it is easy, not just when you feel like it but always. Let your marriage become a small reflection of the relentless, joyful love that Christ has for His church.

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