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Letting Go of Anger When You’ve Been Deeply Wronged
True freedom begins when you trust God to carry what you were never meant to hold.

We all carry wounds some shallow, others soul-deep. Whether it was betrayal, abandonment, or injustice, certain wrongs can lodge themselves in our hearts with a weight that never seems to lift. And while we know we’re called to forgive, doing so can feel like letting the guilty go free. But what if the freedom we crave isn’t found in holding on but in laying it all down before a just and sovereign God?
The Struggle of Holding On
Romans 12:19 says, “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.’” This isn’t a call to passive acceptance. It’s a divine promise: justice will be done not on our timetable, but on God’s.
One of the greatest obstacles to forgiveness is the fear that justice will be lost if we let go. We play the wrongs over and over in our minds, fearing that if we stop, the truth will vanish and the wound will be forgotten. But Scripture reminds us: God sees. God knows. God will repay.
God Doesn’t Ignore Your Pain
Letting go of anger doesn’t mean pretending the wrong never happened. It means entrusting your pain to the only One strong enough to carry it. God is not asking you to forget the hurt. He’s inviting you to stop reliving it as if justice rests on your shoulders. Because it doesn’t.
Proverbs 24:17–18 warns us not to rejoice when our enemy falls, lest God turn His wrath away from them. Even our desire for revenge must be surrendered. This isn’t about secret satisfaction at God’s judgment it’s about quiet confidence in His perfect justice.
Freedom Isn’t Found in Vengeance
When we hold a grudge, we believe we’re maintaining justice. But in reality, we’re burdening ourselves with something too heavy to carry. Resentment corrodes the soul, but trust in God liberates it. And in the space where bitterness once lived, love has room to grow.
Recent psychological studies confirm what Scripture has long taught: those who forgive deeply experience lower stress, improved health, and greater emotional well-being. But beyond physical relief, forgiveness is a spiritual release a return to trust in God's sovereign hand.
How to Begin Letting Go
Acknowledge the Hurt
Don’t minimize or deny it. Name the wrong. God doesn’t ask for false cheerfulness He asks for surrender.Release Vengeance to God
Say it out loud if you must “I release this person and trust You to do what is just.”Pray for the Offender
This isn’t approval it’s obedience. As Jesus taught in Matthew 5:44, “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”Repeat as Needed
Forgiveness is often a process. Each time the anger resurfaces, lay it down again. God never tires of lifting your burden.
What Feels Lost Is Picked Up by God
The pain you carry doesn’t fall into a void when you release it it is picked up by a just, all-knowing God who says, “Vengeance is mine.” That is not a threat it is a comfort. Because in His justice, mercy is still possible. And in His mercy, love can bloom where pain once ruled.
Letting go is not the end it’s the beginning of peace.
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